What is Mindfulness?
We live busy lives – from the time we wake up, we are bombarded with tasks that need to be finished. We make breakfast, go to work or school, commute while listening to music or talking on the phone, or playing video games. This takes a lot of brainpower so our amazing minds learn to autopilot.
This autopiloting behavior is efficient, but it comes with a downside – have you noticed how well-rested you are, how delicious your breakfast is, or how pretty the flowers are on your way to work? Autopiloting lets your mind wander, often leading to thoughts of fear, worry, anxiety, or dread.
This is where the skill of mindfulness comes in.
Mindfulness is about taking control back and focusing on what is happening now - without judgment. Focusing on the present helps you shift attention away from anxiety-inducing thoughts, which are usually rooted in the past or future.
Mindfulness Skills as a DBT Module
Dialectical Behavior Therapy incorporates four key modules, with mindfulness as the foundational element. This crucial component is often the starting point in therapy, providing essential groundwork for the other three modules: distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness.
By first establishing mindfulness skills, psychologists set the stage for more effective learning and application of the remaining DBT concepts.
What Mindfulness Skills are taught in DBT?
The Mindfulness Skills taught in DBT are “What” Skills and “How Skills”
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Observing Perceiving your present experience without filtering or judging it:
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Describing Putting words to your observations:
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Participating Fully immersing yourself in the current activity with undivided attention
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One-Mindfully Emphasizes doing one thing at a time
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Effectively Focusing on what works and doing what is needed for the situation, not what your emotions dictate
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Nonjudgmentally Seeing things as they are, without adding labels like “good”, “bad”, “right” or “wrong”
How Do These Mindfulness Techniques Help?
The mindfulness techniques taught in DBT play an important role in enhancing your ability to manage emotions, cope with stress, and improve relationships.
By cultivating a mindful awareness of the present moment, you learn to observe and describe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. This heightened awareness is crucial in helping you break the cycle of automatic, often negative, thought patterns that can lead to emotional distress.
Benefits of Mindfulness
Even if you do not need therapy, practicing mindfulness in your daily life can be very beneficial. Here are some of the benefits of practicing mindfulness:
- Overall Wellbeing. By practicing the habit of focusing on what is happening now, you are able to enjoy the activities you are currently partaking with, without fearing the future or worrying about the mistakes of the past. People who are not fearful or anxious are less stressed, happier, more energetic, and are more deeply connected with others.
- Getting Better Sleep. Practicing mindfulness can give you better sleep quality by reducing your stressful thoughts to help your mind relax, a state that leads to a more restful sleep.
- Lowered Blood Pressure. Mindfulness is known to reduce blood pressure by enhancing attention control and emotion regulation, encouraging a state of relaxation.
- Pain Management. Mindfulness helps with pain associated with fibromyalgia, migraine, chronic pelvic pain, irritable bowel syndrome, and other conditions.
- Enhanced Focus and Concentration. Individuals who practice mindfulness report improvements in concentration and the ability to focus.
- Helps with Stress, Anxiety, and Depression. Multiple studies were conclusive that mindfulness exercises do relieve stress anxiety and depression.
- Weight Control and Eating Behavior. Mindfulness helps you control weight by helping reduce binge, emotional and restrained eating.
Should I Get a Mindfulness Coach?
If your problems are common, like stress or anxiety, you can start with online videos of mindfulness exercises to see if they help. The DBT mindfulness exercises found in this page are sufficient enough to help reduce stress and help with anxiety.
If you have specific problems, are in uncommon situations or need a tailored mindfulness program, then you will need the help of a mindfulness coach.
How Much Do Mindfulness Coaches Charge?
Mindfulness coaches charge differently by qualifications, experience, location and your needs. However, in the US, the national average is $150 per session.
How About A Virtual Mindfulness Coach?
Mindfulness coaches generally charge the same amount for virtual coaching. Favored software include Google Meet, Skype and Zoom. Again, we encourage you to take our free DBT mindfulness exercises, videos and worksheets, to see if they help.
How Does Guided Mindfulness Meditation Work With A Coach?
Guided mindfulness meditation includes a mindfulness coach who will lead the meditation:
- Creating the Perfect Atmosphere. Your coach will set up a peaceful, welcoming space that's just right for mindfulness meditation.
- Guiding You Through. They will give you easy-to-follow instructions during the mindfulness session. They'll walk you through each step.
- Exploring Mindfulness Techniques. Your coach might introduce you to different techniques, like body scans, focusing on your breath, or just observing your thoughts as they come and go – kind of like what you see in our DBT videos!
- Tailored Just for You. What's really great about having a coach is the personal touch. They'll adapt the session to fit exactly what you need and help with any unique challenges you're facing.
- Bringing Mindfulness into Everyday Life. After your meditation, your coach will share tips on how to keep that mindful state going throughout your day.
- Keeping Track of Your Journey. With regular meet-ups, your coach will help you see how far you've come and tweak your practices to keep you on track.
- Your Emotional Cheerleader. A mindfulness coach creates this safe, understanding space where you can freely explore your thoughts and feelings during your practice. It's another solid reason to consider getting a coach.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Teaching mindfulness to children in the form of a game can be rewarding. Some examples of mindfulness activities for kids include:
- Balancing on one foot
- Lying down and focusing on each body part
- Heartbeat exercise
- STOP (stop, take a breath, observe, proceed)
- Rainbow breath exercise
- Blindfolded taste test
- How I feel today
- Mindfulness pennies game
Incorporating mindfulness into our lives can have a huge positive impact. Here are some ideas:
- Mindful breathing can be done to help calm ourselves when stressful events happen.
- During conversations, you can practice one-mindfully and focus on listening and understanding what they are saying.
- Same with work or study. Practice one-mindfully and focus on working and achieving your goal.
- You can achieve a better understanding of your diet by being mindful of what you have eaten and plan to eat throughout the day.
- Everyday, you can do a mind-body scan to see if your body and mind are still in shape.
- You can appreciate nature trips more if you incorporate mindfulness into the experience. How cool is it? Do you hear the birds? How does that fruit taste? Savor each sensory experience to enjoy it more.
- Same with art. Being mindful of the colors, textures and how the art makes you feel will help you appreciate the beauty in art more.
- Being mindful of your exercise helps you get the most of your workout. Mindfulness while exercising helps you lift more, make your workouts safer and lose more fat.
- Turn your routine activities into an impromptu mindfulness exercise by focusing on your thoughts, sensations and feelings. For example, while showering, focus on how the water feels. While sitting on the train, look out the window and focus on the sky or the landscape. Observe the people, their expressions and clothes without making up a story in your head or judging what they wear or appearance.
References
- Positive Psychology. “Harnessing the power of happiness, mindfulness, and inner strength”.
- Marsha Linehan. “Mindfulness: The First Skills Module Taught in DBT”.
- PubMed. “Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy for generalized anxiety disorder”.
- PLOS ONE. “Mindfulness-Based Blood Pressure Reduction (MB-BP): Stage 1 single-arm clinical trial”.
- NIH National Library of Medicine. “Mindfulness meditation–based pain relief: a mechanistic account”.
- NIH National Library of Medicine. “Cognitive Effects of Mindfulness Training: Results of a Pilot Study Based on a Theory Driven Approach”.
- ScienceDirect. “Exploratory randomised controlled trial of a mindfulness-based weight loss intervention for women”
Waterford. “51 Mindfulness Exercises for Kids in the Classroom”.
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