T5: Grounding
Introduction
The goal of the grounding technique is to help you get in the here and now. When you are overwhelmed with emotions you often stopping being present in the moment, and drift off into an inner world of thoughts, or you start re-visiting past or thinking about the future. One way to deal with those emotions, is to ground yourself back in the present moment. If you did the mindfulness exercises from the first module, you'll notice that this technique has some similarities.
Before we start with the instructions, we must mention that the key to using the grounding technique is identifying that we drifted off and that we are not present. When we have noticed that we are trying to avoid the reality, because it is perhaps too painful, we can choose to do the grounding technique.
Instructions
Use the Grounding technique to reconnect with the present when you start to feel overwhelming emotion associated with the past or the future.
Step One: Describe What You See
First, we will focus on what we can see in the visual field around us. Look around you and start observing the objects that you see. What is their color? What is their shape? Star describing the things quietly. Observe whether the room is light or dark, whether it is spacious or small. Stay with each object long enough to observe how it looks like, and then move to the other. Spend about 10 minutes on this step.
Example: "I can see my white wallet lying on the desk. It has a rectangular shape and there is a sunray touching it. I can see my black notebook, smooth on the covers, also a little lit from the sunrays. On my right I have a glass of water, translucent, with a form of a cylinder. The water moves a little inside the glass because of my movements..."
Step Two: Breathing
Spend about five minutes focusing on your breath. Become mindful of how your body feels with air as you breathe in and how it relaxes as you breathe out. Start counting your breaths from one to five on the exhale. First breathe deeply and slowly, and then settle into your normal rhythm of breathing.
Step Three: Mindfulness of the Body
Next, start observing how your body makes contact with the chair that you're sitting on. Feel the weight of your legs pressing on the chair, your back touching the back of the chair. Observe whether you feel tension in certain parts of the body. Do you feel pain in any part of the body or are you comfortable? Notice how your feet touch the floor. Feel the contact of your soles on the floor beneath you. Observe how your arms rest in your lap or on the chair. Feel their weight. Spend about 5 minutes on this step.
Step Four: Observing With the Other Senses
Last but not least, engage your other senses. Can you notice a certain smell in the room or not? Try to be observant. Then, become mindful of the sounds around you. What sounds can you hear? Try to notice the distant sounds from the street. Maybe there are more immediate sounds around you that you can easily hear. Be open to whatever you might hear. Spend about five minutes on this step.
Worksheet
Use the worksheet for a summary of the Grounding technique and to practice applying the skill.
FAQs
How is this exercise different from the mindfulness exercises we did?
The grounding technique is meant to help you in more immediate situations. When you drift off because you feel emotions, this technique helps you cope by changing your focus to the immediate moment.
The mindfulness exercises that we practiced are like a muscle that we gradually work on, every day, little by little. The mindfulness skills help us with being more present and with identifying what we feel, think or the ways that we behave.
The distress tolerance skills help us cope with an immediate emotional crisis without making the situation worse.
I can't notice when I'm avoiding the reality around me, therefore I can't do the exercise in the right time (instead I remember later that this skill would've been useful).
Try doing more of the mindfulness exercises from the first module. If you started reading the distress tolerance exercises first, it's a good idea to get a good leverage by doing the mindfulness exercises first. They will help you with being more aware of everything that's happening inside you and in your environment (emotions, thoughts, behaviors). Then you will start noticing more easily when you have emotions that you feel you can't cope with. You will be more ready to do the grounding technique then.
I think it will be difficult to do the grounding technique when I'm in the middle of an emotional crisis.
It is true that when you are in the midst of drifting off the things around you, at the beginning you might find it difficult, you might even feel resistant to the idea of bringing yourself back to the here and now. Just remember, that this skill is a useful coping technique that can improve the quality of your everyday functioning. Try to see the benefits and be open to how this exercise can alleviate your emotional distress.
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