Progressive Muscle Relaxation : Dialectical Behavior Therapy

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Introduction

Stress, anxiety, and chronic pain often show up first as a clenched jaw, hunched shoulders, or knotted calves long before you notice you’re upset. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)—pioneered by Edmund Jacobson—teams deliberate tension with slow release so you can spot hidden tight spots and train your nervous system to switch from fight-or-flight to rest-and-digest on command. Meta-analyses find PMR rivals mindfulness and slow breathing for lowering cortisol, blood pressure, and insomnia within two weeks.

Problem-Solving, Coping & Relapse-Prevention: Progressive Muscle Relaxation is the physical reset button that pairs perfectly with Diaphragmatic Breathing (PR3) and Coping-Ahead (BA10).
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Instructions

Goal: Practice the full 16-muscle sequence once daily for 14 days, plus a 3-group “mini-PMR” whenever tension ≥ 6 / 10.
Full run-time: ~12 minutes

Step 1: Set Up
Sit or lie down, spine straight. Silence phone.
Cue: “Ready, begin.”
Pro-tip: Dim lights if possible.

Step 2: Hands & Arms
Curl fists for 5 seconds, then release for 10. Repeat with biceps.
Cue: “Tight … relax.”
Pro-tip: Inhale on tension, exhale on release.

Step 3: Face & Shoulders
Scrunch forehead, eyes; shrug shoulders.
Pro-tip: Notice the contrast as muscles release.

Step 4: Chest & Back
Inhale, arch back slightly → release.
Pro-tip: Don’t strain—use mild tension only.

Step 5: Belly & Hips
Pull belly in → release; clench glutes → release.
Pro-tip: Keep breathing slow and steady.

Step 6: Legs
Tense thighs, then calves, then feet/toes—one group at a time.
Pro-tip: Point then flex toes for full range.

Step 7: Scan & Repeat Hotspots
Do a full-body scan; retension any area still > 3/10 tight.
Cue: “Let go.”
Pro-tip: Jaw and shoulders often need a second pass.

Step 8: Finish with 3 Breaths
Use a 4-7-8 diaphragmatic cycle.
Cue: “Calm …”
Pro-tip: Locks in the body’s relaxation response.

Step 9: Rate Tension
SUDS or tension scale 0–10 before vs. after; log result.
Pro-tip: Aim for ≥ 3-point drop. Use patterns to guide future practice.


Mini-PMR (60 Seconds)

  • 1) Shoulders
  • 2) Jaw
  • 3) Hands

Tense for 3 seconds, release for 6 seconds — one cycle each. Use whenever tension spikes mid-day.

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FAQs

I cramp or shake during tensing—bad sign?

Reduce squeeze to 50 % strength or shorten tense time to 3 sec; PMR should never hurt.

Can I skip areas after an injury or surgery?

Yes—visualize tensing the area instead, or simply breathe into it and release.

I get sleepy—safe before driving?

PMR can drop alertness; schedule sessions at home or take a 2-minute energizing stretch afterward if you must drive.

How is this different from body scan mindfulness?

PMR adds active tension to sharpen awareness of contrast; scans rely on passive noticing. Many users blend both.

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Disclaimer

If you have any behavioral health questions or concerns, please talk to your healthcare or mental health care provider. This article is supported by peer-reviewed research and information drawn from behavioral health societies and governmental agencies. However, it is not a substitute for professional behavioral health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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